A Good & The Worst Example Of How To Do Motherhood, Business and Fashion

Two famous faces. One of them has broken into the fashion industry, the other has attempted to break the internet...with her bum.

Why have I chosen to write about these two women? Not because I am a fan of either of them.

You don't have to go out and actively seek them out. Their thumbnails and headlines will smack you in the face while you are just trying to juggle the excitement (not) of breastfeeding and scrolling through online magazines (to stay sane and connected with the world), until you cave in and click on the thing 

2015 is a year in an era where we are bombarded by celebrities and their selfies, and babies, and "#OOTD"s, and melt downs and sex-tapes, ventures and re-inventions, with a constant stream of Instagram snaps, regurgitated by gossip magazines along with an entire article about that sole picture. 

This constant cyber harassment raises some serious questions about what impact this is all having on the readers, especially young girls. Ideally, they should be looking up to real role models. Sadly, with all of the world's social media at their fingertips in the form of a phone, it's more likely to be the Kardashians.

Impressionable young girls soak up social media feeds and articles like sponges, and undoubtedly, and perhaps sub-consciously, are picking up (not so) subtle message of what success looks like - and they might make the terrible mistake of thinking it looks like Kim.

Victoria Beckham exploded onto our screens by belonging to one of the most famous bands of all time.Kim Kardashian made her debut by making ray-jay explode and sharing the video evidence.

That said, they share some things in common.  Both are married with children, are trying to be accepted by the fashion industry, have famous husbands who also happen to be trend-setters, and have both paved their own way into the media spotlight, albeit, using very different means.

The only thing that hasn't changed since her Spice Girls days is Victoria Beckham's stubborn unwillingness to crack a smile. Aside from that, she has slowly stepped out of her famous footballer husband's shadow and aspired to be more than the pretty wife on his arm.

Years of hard work, and clever image marketing, have seen her re-invent herself to become a recognized fashion designer, coveted by fashion editors and celebrities alike.

She's left her tight, busty, leggy dresses behind and has embraced 'more is more', which is written all over her latest 2015 New York Fashion Week collection. She's secure enough not to have to flash her skin and can now be seen to be wearing long skirts,  knitware, scarves and loos fitting tops and dresses. She oozes sophistication, maturity and most importantly, class.

While Victoria has stepped into the lime-light for all of the right reasons, Kim, on the other hand, has lost herself in Kanye's shadow. Immersing herself in his delusional folly of self-proclaimed genius-ness againts a backdrop of inferiority complex. She's relinquished her power and allowed him to "re-invent" her by controlling what she wears (with North as an accessory).

Kim and her photoshopped selfies, and books entitled "Selfish" showcasing her selfies, and video tutorials about how to take the perfect, you guessed it, selfie, represents...v a n i t y.

She's marketed herself as the product. Admittedly, she's doing a decent job of it as she's, annoyingly, taking up a lot of column inches

The message that she is sending out to her young audience is that looks matter. A lot. In fact, they are everything.

 These Photoshop queens, through their brain-numbing barage of pictures of their faces, are re-enforcing the "its-all-about-me" mantra. The complete opposite of what our broken world needs.

 This warped sense of self-importance is causing self esteem issues as it sends the message that one's worth relies solely on what others think. You exist to please others and derive your self satisfaction and self-value from people's compliments. One can only imagine a knock to the confidence it would be not to receive these messages of praise.

Indeed there have been many reports of teenagers having committed suicide over trolls rating their pictures as ugly and bullying them because of it, for a laugh. It obviously wasn't funny to the victim.

The problem is, this new generation is learning that this level of grotesque vanity is normal. Little girls think the only way to project themselves onto the world is through the objectification of their beauty and bodies posted onto social media sights for gazing eyes around the world to soak up and judge, and compliment and criticize.

Boys and girls, men and women, shouldn't confuse a source of entertainment with an example of how to be a happy, fulfilled, and fully contributing member of society. There are plenty of examples of that elsewhere in the world.